Thursday, April 29, 2010
Monday, April 19, 2010
"I can have peace of mind only when I forgive rather than judge." Gerald G. Jampols
I catch myself too many times a day thinking judgmental thoughts. Little ones, big ones. Some simple thoughts that I trick myself into thinking they are not judgmental, when in fact, when I follow them through to why I thought them, they certainly are judgmental. Like: Why do they do that? I would never do that? While driving: What aaare youu DOING? Turn already!!! I am right, they are wrong it is that simple. When I am sure if I were in their car, what is going on would make perfect sense. But in my car, for my purposes, they are impeding me and what I want to do.
Judging what others are wearing, choices people make, anything outside of my morals, logic or measure of right and wrong, is judgement!!!! I do this every day, many times a day.
This is why I may fear others are judging me; because I spend my valuable brain space, albeit quickly and instantaneously, thinking about and judging them. If I would spend this effort, productively or even positively, how would my outlook improve, would my productivity improve, how would my own self esteem improve, I need to work on this and find out.
I must learn and implement acceptance for all others; keep myself in check and know the trigger to judgement is when my personal measure of value or deeds is the origin of my thought.